Are You Too Hard on Yourself?
Do You Have Trouble Showing Yourself the Same Grace and Understanding You Offer to Others?
Can You Accept Your Imperfections, and Teach Your Children to Treat Themselves with Compassion Too?
Sometimes, you can be your own worst enemy. We are used to showing compassion to others but often have trouble showing that same compassion to ourselves. We say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend. This lack of compassion and negative self-talk has a devastating effect on our lives.
helps us relate to ourselves with both grace and truth when we fail. When we are compassionate with ourselves, we acknowledge our mistakes—warts and all—and find worth and value within. Self-compassion is not self-pity, and it is not self-complacency. Rather, it is the idea that we can be kind to ourselves when we fail and treat ourselves with the caring support we would give a struggling friend.
Give Yourself a Break offers practical steps, specific exercises, and compassionate words to help you build a loving relationship with yourself. Through inspiring stories of transformation, Kim Fredrickson helps us learn to show ourselves the same grace and understanding we offer to others.
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When we have trouble accepting our perfections, we can find it challenging to teach our children how to be kind to themselves too.
helps parents relate to themselves with kindness as they struggle with the demands of parenting. It also helps them teach their children how to be compassionate with themselves as they grow up. It makes such a difference to go through life with a kind friend on the inside rather than a critic who tells us how we’re messing up.
Our culture is hard on us as parents, passing judgment on how we raise our children. We live in a social media society where most things are edited, photoshopped, and presented as perfect. Parents can be hard on themselves too.
They need compassion, not only for themselves and the impossible job of being a parent, but for their children too. When we don’t know how to be compassionate with ourselves, we may default to blaming, shaming, and bashing ourselves. Give Your Kids a Break shows parents how to be compassionate with themselves as well as teach their children to treat themselves with kindness.
What if You Could...
Most likely you’ve never been taught to handle being an imperfect human in a healthy way
Most of us learned to handle our mistakes, sins and mess-ups by doubling down…by trying harder…by being hard on ourselves as a motivator to not mess up again! Sometimes we try to deal with our shortcomings by denying they are even there.
The problem is these strategies don’t work for the long term. No one achieves long lasting growth by being hard on themselves. You might see some short-term success, but in the end our inner critic takes over…holding us to standards we would never apply to others. No one grows by ignoring problems and hoping they’ll go away.
We employ these strategies because we simply don’t know what else to do
A central foundation of the Bible is how essential it is for us to be reconciled with God and with others. And this is completely true. There can be no peace, no moving forward and no future for relationships where reconciliation has not taken place.
And guess what? This is also true about our relationship with ourselves.
We need a way to deal with our faults that doesn’t beat us up or ignore them. We need a way to care for those God has given us while also caring for ourselves. God knows all of us mess up, make mistakes, sin and do things we regret. This reality is no surprise to Him. He has made a way to reconcile with Him. We also need a way to reconcile with ourselves.