I just took a bold step to ask for help
I have a big goal that really matters to me. Our son is getting married in a little less than two months. We love his fiancé’ and are thrilled about their wedding. We’ve been planning a way to attend for well over a year. We live in northern California, and the wedding is in Houston, TX…2,000 miles away.
Plan A = Fly
That was a great plan until eight months ago, when my pulmonary fibrosis worsened, causing me to no longer be able to fly with my portable oxygen concentrator. There is no portable oxygen machine I can take on a plane that will provide me enough oxygen to keep my O2 at a safe level.
Plan B = Drive
My very supportive husband said it was okay, we (translation = he) would drive us to Houston from Northern California. We knew it would be tiring, taking 6 days to get there because I can only travel for ½ a day or so, before getting to exhausted. This was our plan until about a month ago when we drove to Southern California for Dave’s father’s memorial service (400 miles each way). It became evident on this trip that I could not handle a trip being driven to Houston and back. I was just too worn out, emotionally and physically.
Plan C = Me Not Go
We were devastated that I might not be able to go to the wedding. We didn’t want to give up until we scoured the internet for other possible ways to get to Houston. It’s not in my nature to give up until every stone is unturned.
Plan D = Find Another Way to Fly
I discovered I could charter a plane equipped with two HUGE tanks of oxygen to use on the flight to Houston. It is basically an air ambulance. A wonderful solution…but very expensive. It costs $39,000 for this round-trip flight. This includes the plane, pilots, medical person on board to monitor my oxygen levels and watch over me, the pilot’s and medic’s expenses in Houston, gas, O2, etc).
Traveling by plane exposes people to decreased air pressure and lower than normal oxygen levels. For most people, these changes are not noticeable. However, for patients like me with a serious lung condition, reduction in air pressure that happens when flying can have significant and potentially severe effects. When I fly, I have to use double the amount of supplemental oxygen I use on the ground.
Paying for this would be difficult no matter what. It is especially a challenge for us because we have spent $50,000 over the last three years for my treatments for breast cancer and pulmonary fibrosis.
We’ve sold some things on e-bay, my husband sold half of his professional library, and there are some stocks we can sell…but this cost is still out of reach.
So, last week I created a fundraiser to see if friends would like to help. You can take a look at it here: www.youcaring.com/HelpKimFly I posted it on facebook, twitter, LinkedIn and google+ and will let others know who want to help financially. It was a lot of work to do, but worth it because this is the one event I want to attend before I eventually pass away from pulmonary fibrosis.
I know that this is heavy duty, and there is an urgency for me because of my terminal illness. The reality is that our time is precious. We need to make the most of it. If you need assistance, for something that is deeply important to you, please ask for help.
So how about you? What really matters to you?
Maybe it isn’t raising money for a big event. What is close to your heart? What do you want to accomplish? What type of impact do you want to have with family and friends? How would you like to make an impact in your church or community?
Is there a trip you want to take, or dream you want to fulfill that has deep meaning for you?
Please listen to your heart about the answers to these questions. If they require finances to accomplish, consider doing a fundraiser or asking for needed help from others in your life.
You matter. What is important to you matters. The effort to make it happen is worth it, because you are worth it!
I’d love to hear from you. What made sense or stood out to you? Are there extra steps you’ve taken or ways you’ve asked for help to accomplish a dream? Is there a goal you want to pursue?
I sure would appreciate it if you could share the link to my fundraiser on facebook, twitter, or other social media sites. Every little bit will help, and make a big difference. Thank you so much friends…
Please share this post with anyone you feel could benefit, or on social media. We’re in this together…