Building a Compassionate Relationship with Yourself is Life Changing
You and your relationships will benefit as you take care of yourself and have a “compassionate you” to go through life with.You've been desiring compassion, not only from others, but from yourself. Click To Tweet
Following are some ideas you can build into your life to continue developing the compassionate relationship that you have already begun.
Resist the urge to veg out, live on automatic pilot, and give up your choices to the demands of others, and urgencies of life. Commit to be aware of yourself, your thoughts, feelings, needs and intuition. Check in with yourself each morning and evening. Ask yourself how you are doing, what you need, and notice what zapped you of energy and positivity that day.
Make Small and Meaningful Changes in Your Life
Realize that even small changes make a huge difference over time. Pick an area to focus on that will help you be a better friend to yourself. Areas to consider include talking to yourself kindly, allowing yourself time to rest, pursuing a hobby you enjoy, or taking time for self-care. Commit to change one small thing each day and notice the difference it makes.
Schedule Times for Self-Soothing
Take time each day to sooth yourself in healthy ways. Simple things such as stretching, listening to soothing music, taking a warm bath or reading Bible verses that give you hope, can really help. Figure out what time of day works for you. With practice, skills to sooth your system will become automatic and rejuvenating.
Practice Talking to Yourself Kindly
We talk to ourselves all day long. Decide to care for yourself by speaking to yourself with kindness and compassion. Start by noticing how you speak to yourself. You don’t need to do this perfectly. Even when you get down on yourself, you can stop and say to yourself, “No I am not going to speak to myself this way. I will speak to myself kindly as I would to a friend who is struggling.”
Ask for What You Need
As you become more aware of yourself and your needs, ask for what you need from yourself, God and others. God created your needs and they are good. Remember to use wisdom as you ask for help and support as needed. Resist the urge to hint. Ask directly.
Encourage and Validate YourselfTry to build in regular times of being your own encourager and validator. Click To Tweet
Resist the urge to wait for someone else to do this for you. When you step back from the situation at hand, you will be able to find character traits, motives, and actions you can encourage yourself about. As you get ready for bed, review what you are proud of yourself for that day.
Seek Comfort and Connection from God
God loves you and wants a close relationship with you. He is the source of comfort, love and the author of grace! There is no sin or mistake too big that cannot be forgiven by Him. His arms are open wide to you.
There are many verses that highlight God’s love, care, and value of us, as well as the compassionate ways he sees and relates to us. Compassion is often translated as mercy in the Bible. Mulling over a verse each morning and evening will bring the healing truth of God’s love and compassion for you deep in your heart and soul.
“For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, do not fear; I will help you.” ~Isa. 41:13
“The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” ~ Jer. 31:3
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” ~ Ps. 147:3
“But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.” ~ Ps. 86:15
“You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you.” ~ Ps. 86:5
“Shout for joy, you heavens; rejoice, you earth; burst into song, you mountains! For the Lord comforts his people and will have compassion on his afflicted ones.” ~ Isa. 49:13
“Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed, says the LORD, who has compassion on you.” ~ Isaiah 54:10
There is hope to build a compassionate relationship with yourself. You are on your way! Keep connected to your inner self as you build new ways of relating to yourself in positive ways a little each day. You are valuable, you matter, and you deserve compassion and care!
I’d love to hear from you. What did you think the idea that there is a place in you that has been desiring compassion and understanding, not only from others, but from yourself? Which of the 7 ways to be compassionate with yourself stood out? Which of the verses I shared spoke to you?
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