Is All the Hard Work of Growth Worth It?
Such a good question. It takes a lot of work to produce growth in our lives. As a Marriage and Therapist for 30 years, I was often asked,
- Will all this work I’m doing to grow and change really pay off?
- Will it make my relationships better?
- Will I ever be done?
I am here to encourage you that there are tremendous benefits in your quest for personal growth. This kind of work is sacred…it is a reflection of God’s work. God is in the business of healing the devastating effects of sin. God created us whole…in one piece meant to intimately fellowship with Himself, others, and ourselves. The effect of our own sin, and the sin inflicted on us by others, causes us to struggle in our relationships. We often do not know how to relate in healthy ways. We struggle to accept and forgive others, and ourselves. We find it challenging to invite God in to change us and help us on an hour-by-hour basis.
But remember, there is hope!
God is with us and for us! By bringing God into your personal growth, we become more like Christ, and that is a good thing. We become more like Christ in the way we view and treat others and ourselves. God has always been in the business of bringing change, growth, and healing to willing people who are struggling with life’s most difficult experiences.
When we do the work of personal growth and recovery, we do the sacred work of restoring what was lost, of healing what was broken, of bringing acceptance where there was shame, of bringing forgiveness where there was condemnation, and of being set free when in bondage.
When we do this important work, we are able to grow up on the inside
We are able to respond to situations like adults, rather than like children. For instance,
- We’re able to respond rather than react
- We become more aware of our feelings. We express them in healthy ways, rather than denying or over-expressing them
- We can take a look inside and become aware of our needs and take steps to meet them in healthier ways
- Our relationships become healthier, and we become a more godly friend, spouse, co-worker, and parent
Take Heart! Keep Persevering! Don’t Give up!
Seek out God as your heavenly therapist and coach. Personal growth can be both exciting and terrifying. It is easy to feel overwhelmed as we realize how our dysfunctional past and unprocessed feelings influence many aspects of our lives. Rest assured, growth is possible! It is not something we can do overnight, nor is it a goal we can achieve in a predetermined amount of time. Rather, recovery is a lifetime process. Sometimes you may see growth immediately, and sometimes it will take longer to appear. Fortunately, personal growth is not something we have to do instantly, perfectly, or completely before we realize any benefit. Every step we take toward recovery is a step we take away from shame, codependency, compulsiveness, addiction, and relationship problems.
Personal Growth means reaching out to God for help and hope
“Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,
And he saved them from their distress.
He brought them out of darkness and the deepest gloom
And broke away their chains.
Let them give thanks to the Lord for His unfailing love
And His wonderful deeds for men,
For He breaks down gates of bronze
And cuts through bars of iron.”
~ Psalm 107:13-16
Personal Growth is God’s light coming into darkness
“The people walking in darkness
Have seen a great light;
On those living in the land of the shadow of death
A light has dawned.”
~ Isaiah 9:2
Personal Growth is receiving God’s grace and mercy deep inside
“Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that
We may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”
~ Hebrews 4:16
Personal growth means passing health and happiness to the generations after you, rather than passing on dysfunction and pain.
Take Heart! Keep Persevering! Don’t Give Up! God is With You!
I’d love to hear from you. What is your response to hearing about the benefits of personal growth? How have you see this to be true in your life? What jumped out from you from this post?
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