The Benefits of Personal Growth

Is All the Hard Work of Growth Worth It?

http://kimfredrickson.com/2017/06/28/the-benefits-of-personal-growth

Such a good question. It takes a lot of work to produce growth in our lives. As a Marriage and Therapist for 30 years, I was often asked,

  • Will all this work I’m doing to grow and change really pay off?
  • Will it make my relationships better?
  • Will I ever be done?

Benefits

I am here to encourage you that there are tremendous benefits in your quest for personal growth. This kind of work is sacred…it is a reflection of God’s work. God is in the business of healing the devastating effects of sin. God created us whole…in one piece meant to intimately fellowship with Himself, others, and ourselves. The effect of our own sin, and the sin inflicted on us by others, causes us to struggle in our relationships.  We often do not know how to relate in healthy ways. We struggle to accept and forgive others, and ourselves. We find it challenging to invite God in to change us and help us on an hour-by-hour basis.

But remember, there is hope!

God is with us and for us! By bringing God into your personal growth, we become more like Christ, and that is a good thing. We become more like Christ in the way we view and treat others and ourselves. God has always been in the business of bringing change, growth, and healing to willing people who are struggling with life’s most difficult experiences.

When we do the work of personal growth and recovery, we do the sacred work of restoring what was lost, of healing what was broken, of bringing acceptance where there was shame, of bringing forgiveness where there was condemnation, and of being set free when in bondage.

When we do this important work, we are able to grow up on the inside

We are able to respond to situations like adults, rather than like children.  For instance,

  • We’re able to respond rather than react
  • We become more aware of our feelings. We express them in healthy ways, rather than denying or over-expressing them
  • We can take a look inside and become aware of our needs and take steps to meet them in healthier ways
  • Our relationships become healthier, and we become a more godly friend, spouse, co-worker, and parent

Take Heart! Keep Persevering! Don’t Give up!

Seek out God as your heavenly therapist and coach. Personal growth can be both exciting and terrifying. It is easy to feel overwhelmed as we realize how our dysfunctional past and unprocessed feelings influence many aspects of our lives.  Rest assured, growth is possible!  It is not something we can do overnight, nor is it a goal we can achieve in a predetermined amount of time. Rather, recovery is a lifetime process. Sometimes you may see growth immediately, and sometimes it will take longer to appear. Fortunately, personal growth is not something we have to do instantly, perfectly, or completely before we realize any benefit.  Every step we take toward recovery is a step we take away from shame, codependency, compulsiveness, addiction, and relationship problems.

Personal Growth means reaching out to God for help and hope

“Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,

And he saved them from their distress.

He brought them out of darkness and the deepest gloom

And broke away their chains.

Let them give thanks to the Lord for His unfailing love

And His wonderful deeds for men,

For He breaks down gates of bronze

And cuts through bars of iron.”

~ Psalm 107:13-16

Personal Growth is God’s light coming into darkness

“The people walking in darkness

Have seen a great light;

On those living in the land of the shadow of death

A light has dawned.”

~  Isaiah 9:2

Personal Growth is receiving God’s grace and mercy deep inside

“Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that

We may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

~ Hebrews 4:16

Personal growth means passing health and happiness to the generations after you, rather than passing on dysfunction and pain.

Take Heart! Keep Persevering! Don’t Give Up! God is With You!

I’d love to hear from you. What is your response to hearing about the benefits of personal growth? How have you see this to be true in your life? What jumped out from you from this post?

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8 thoughts on “The Benefits of Personal Growth

  1. Thank you so much, Kim. Each sentence is a highlight for me! Right now, “Every step we take toward recovery is a step we take away from shame, codependency, compulsiveness, addiction, and relationship problems,” speaks to me because a big part of my recovery/sanctification is now about thinking through, waiting on God, and talking with trusted friends about “the next step.” I want to jump from “A to G” but that’s my addictive/codependent way of missing the process and trying to get what I think I want, but my recovery needs to move from “A to B.” I’ve been going through a 7 year “growth experience” that has been like nothing I’ve gone through before, and although it feels like it’s never going to end, at this point, I can honestly say I am connected more deeply to God, others, and myself. There’s been other benefits as well, even through tremendous loss and problems. One of the greatest helps has been “One day at a time” and when that’s been too much, one hour at a time. Thank you for the scripture, I’m copying and pasting for my daily reading. I appreciate you so much!

    1. Leslie, Thanks so much for sharing with us. I’m so glad that this post was so helpful. You are so courageous to be in this growth process for 7 years. Never easy, but highly profitable. Congrats!!!

  2. I’m encouraged to be reminded that this work is sacred, and is a reflection of God, and is in fact a lifetime process! I can have compassion for myself and the time it takes me to become the person God wants me to be.

  3. Re: Will all this work I’m doing to grow and change really pay off?
    Will it make my relationships better?
    Will I ever be done?

    . . . Oh my, I bet you got those questions, ―Big Time! What I have learned is that: You don’t need to change the world; you need to change yourself, changing yourself changes the world.

    “Seek out God as your heavenly therapist and coach.” ―Absolutely!!! That is so, so important to understand. We operate in real time and I can’t call my counselor from half way around the world. God always winds up being my main therapist and coach. The Bible and God have more good ideas in them than clam chowder has calories. It’s packed into every page, every line, every cry to Him for help.

    “God is with us and for us! By bringing God into your personal growth, we become more like Christ, and that is a good thing. We become more like Christ in the way we view and treat others and ourselves. God has always been in the business of bringing change, growth, and healing to willing people who are struggling with life’s most difficult experiences.” ―Lord God, I’m ready, willing, and able. . . .Love is an inside job and comes from our CORE, our factory of ourselves, ―the way we treat ourselves, ―the love we give ourselves. Above everything else, we need to genuinely love ourselves first. Christ’s self-love is powerful and it’s the best love that we will ever have. I know when I love who I am, my relationships generally are healthier. Self-love sets the standard in how we allow others to treat us and how we treat ourselves. . . .I was telling a women just yesterday that before you find your soul mate, you must first discover your soul and we simply can’t do that without Christ’s help. God is always whispering in our hearts, in the whole existence, we just tune our ears in with prayer. I try to never allow my ego to diminish my ability to listen to God.

    1. Aleea, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom born out of hard work on your part. It is so lovely to watch your path of growth since we met on Leslie’s blog almost two years ago! I love what you shared!

      1. Re: Leslie’s blog almost two years ago!

        . . .I totally remember. ―I always remember! . . .And I love what you share which comes from a well far, far deeper than mine. More than this, I can’t believe how much of yourself you are so consistently willing to give/share. ―How is that possible? . . .The mind of God is a mystery and none can understand it, certainly not me. The more God asks us to participate in His mysteries, the more disoriented we become, because He asks us constantly to follow our dreams and our hearts. ―And that’s difficult to do when we’re used to living in a very different way, ―for me, focusing on safety, not risky faith. . . .But all that “safety” is an illusion, I know. My childhood was utter chaos, it’s hard not to crave safety. The value of taking risks for God through all stages of life is constant . . .it’s only my excuses that change.

        1. I love what you said, “My childhood was utter chaos, it’s hard not to crave safety.” My first thought was compassion…of course you would crave safety. That is a good sign. What if you craved chaos? Much better to crave safety and learn slowly to depend on God for the unknowns. You’re making progress!

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