The Behind the Scenes Story…
Hello, I wanted to share with you the story of how I came to write Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children. I wasn’t intending to write another book. Four years ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and received treatment. Four days after finishing treatment, I was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis, a terminal lung disease. This complication developed as a rare side effect from the chemotherapy and radiation I received for breast cancer.
It’s Been Rough
As you can imagine, it has been a very rough road, facing a terminal illness while dealing with lots of change, disability and grief. I’m a reality gal, so I began looking at the future, and preparing for all that would come. One of the hard things I had to face was that most likely I wouldn’t be around when my adult children have children of their own. I’ve shed a lot of tears about this as you can imagine. I also thought, “What could I do for them? How could I help them when they become parents? How can I have a positive influence on the lives of my future grandchildren?”
Then God gave me a wonderful idea! I decided to put together all the handouts and notes on my computer from the last twenty years of giving parenting classes. I compiled everything into a book for them, and added fun personal stories. It was a way for me to give them input and advice to help with the challenges of parenting when that time comes.
Being a Parent is Challenging
As I wrote, I decided I really liked how it was turning out, and decided maybe it would help other parents too. I really wanted parents to learn how to be compassionate with themselves as they parent. Being a parent in this day and age is very challenging, no matter what age your children are. Parenting with compassion is a way to treat ourselves with gentleness, as we struggle with the demands of parenting. When we exercise self-compassion, we:
- Have more love and compassion to give
- Don’t waste precious energy beating ourselves up
- Correct mistakes and repair hurts with our children
- Learn what we don’t know and find solutions
Children Need to Learn to be Kind to ThemselvesChildren desperately need to learn how to be compassionate with themselves. Click To Tweet
They are constantly learning new things, through trial and error, which involves lots of failure. When kids practice self-compassion, they become more resilient, feel better about themselves, and have a greater ability to handle life’s problems. Give Your Kids a Break is full of parenting tips about challenges every parent faces. Interwoven throughout is faith, and compassion for parents, and kids alike.
I decided to self-publish this book, because going with a publisher would take too long — 1 ½ to 2 years. I wanted to be healthy enough to tell others about it, and share it with the world.
So, my book is a blessing from a really awful situation, which is my illness. I hope it will be helpful to my children and future grandchildren, as well as to many others. Parenting with compassion makes our job as parents easier, and helps you teach your children to be compassionate with themselves as they grow, fail, live life, goof up and go through difficult times.
Here’s a 4-minute video I made to tell the real story behind Give Your Kids a Break.
So now you know the back story about how Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children came to life. I wasn’t planning on writing it, but God nudged me, and it happened! It is available for pre-order now! Thanks for your support and interest. It means a lot to me.
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What jumped out at you from this post? When do you need compassion for yourself as a parent the most? When do you see children need compassion the most?