What Does It Mean to Parent with Compassion?

We need compassion

Parenting with compassion is a gentle way we can relate to ourselves, especially when we’re struggling with the demands of parenting. It makes such a difference to go through life with a kind friend on the inside rather than a critic who is telling us how we’re messing up. Imagine what it would be like for you to have a compassionate friend inside to encourage you as a parent? It makes a huge difference to parents and grandparents alike.

We can be hard on ourselves

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We don’t mean to, we simply don’t know another way to respond to our struggles and failures as a parent. We need compassion, not only for ourselves and the impossible job of being a parent, but for our children too. We have a lot in common with our children. We’ve never been a parent, and they’ve never been a child. We are all on a big learning curve.

Our culture can be quite hard on us as parents, passing judgment on how we help our children sleep, eat, go to school, and partake in extracurricular activities, to name a few. We live in a social media society where most things are edited, “photo-shopped” and presented as perfect. It’s as if we think that there is a perfect formula to raise perfectly happy, perfectly achieving kids. Spoiler alert: There isn’t!

Being a parent in this day and age is very challenging, no matter the age of your children. Click To Tweet

Parents can be so hard on themselves, but the reality is that this makes everything worse! We can learn to be compassionate with ourselves, as well as teach our children to treat themselves with kindness.

See the world through your children’s eyes

As we parent with compassion, we tune into the unique needs and struggles of our children and teens. We try to see the world through their eyes, factoring in their age, personality, and unique life challenges. We have an amazing opportunity to build a close relationship with our children from a foundation of compassion. As we respond to their imperfections with kindness, they will learn to respond to themselves with compassionate too.

We have more to give

By nurturing and supporting ourselves, we have more love and compassion to give to our children. Click To Tweet

By forgiving ourselves for the inevitable mistakes we make as parents, we won’t waste precious energy beating ourselves up. Treating ourselves with compassion helps us make peace with ourselves, correct our mistakes, and enjoy the precious time we have with our children and grandchildren.

Here’s a short video I recorded for you to encourage you to be compassionate with yourself.

It is important as parents to be compassionate with ourselves about what we’re going through not just as a parent, but in our lives. Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children will help.

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How about you?

Do you think our culture makes it hard for parents? If so, how? What would it be like if you had a compassionate friend on the inside encouraging you as a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle?

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4 thoughts on “What Does It Mean to Parent with Compassion?

  1. Another very important message for parents, and one that I wish had been presented way back in the Dark Ages when I was a new parent. It would have been reassuring to be told that all parents have challenges and lessons to learn, and that the parents and children that seemed “perfect” out in the world were also flawed and needed to give and receive compassion. When I reminisce with life-long friends about those early days, we laugh at how idealistic and gullible we were. The one thing that we all seemed to have in common was the fact that our husbands were not very hands-on with the child rearing. I am so encouraged to see so many of the new dads really being involved, some even as stay-at-home dads, whether by choice or necessity.
    Thank you for this powerful ministry!
    You are loved, you know!

  2. Hello Kim!
    What you said hit home in my grandmother’s heart. I help care for my grandson (who is almost 2) while the parents are both working. I had a bad day a week ago and was beating myself up on how short tempered and gruff I was that day. You’re right – it’s a waste of energy! How much better to “give myself a break” and realize that bad days happen to us all and go on with compassion toward myself and more energy for the next day. Thanks for the reminder Kim!

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