We need compassion
Parenting with compassion is a gentle way we can relate to ourselves, especially when we’re struggling with the demands of parenting. It makes such a difference to go through life with a kind friend on the inside rather than a critic who is telling us how we’re messing up. Imagine what it would be like for you to have a compassionate friend inside to encourage you as a parent? It makes a huge difference to parents and grandparents alike.
We can be hard on ourselves
We don’t mean to, we simply don’t know another way to respond to our struggles and failures as a parent. We need compassion, not only for ourselves and the impossible job of being a parent, but for our children too. We have a lot in common with our children. We’ve never been a parent, and they’ve never been a child. We are all on a big learning curve.
Our culture can be quite hard on us as parents, passing judgment on how we help our children sleep, eat, go to school, and partake in extracurricular activities, to name a few. We live in a social media society where most things are edited, “photo-shopped” and presented as perfect. It’s as if we think that there is a perfect formula to raise perfectly happy, perfectly achieving kids. Spoiler alert: There isn’t!Being a parent in this day and age is very challenging, no matter the age of your children. Click To Tweet
Parents can be so hard on themselves, but the reality is that this makes everything worse! We can learn to be compassionate with ourselves, as well as teach our children to treat themselves with kindness.
See the world through your children’s eyes
As we parent with compassion, we tune into the unique needs and struggles of our children and teens. We try to see the world through their eyes, factoring in their age, personality, and unique life challenges. We have an amazing opportunity to build a close relationship with our children from a foundation of compassion. As we respond to their imperfections with kindness, they will learn to respond to themselves with compassionate too.
We have more to giveBy nurturing and supporting ourselves, we have more love and compassion to give to our children. Click To Tweet
By forgiving ourselves for the inevitable mistakes we make as parents, we won’t waste precious energy beating ourselves up. Treating ourselves with compassion helps us make peace with ourselves, correct our mistakes, and enjoy the precious time we have with our children and grandchildren.
Here’s a short video I recorded for you to encourage you to be compassionate with yourself.
It is important as parents to be compassionate with ourselves about what we’re going through not just as a parent, but in our lives. Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children will help.
How about you?
Do you think our culture makes it hard for parents? If so, how? What would it be like if you had a compassionate friend on the inside encouraging you as a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle?
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