Hello! The Holidays are just around the corner, and it’s normal to have mixed feelings about this time of year.
For some of us, this time of year is a blessing, full of anticipation and positive feelings. For others, it is a painful time. This is especially true if you’ve been through a recent loss, tragedy, or extended period of stress. If this is true for you, please accept my condolences and hugs from afar.Trying to feel thankful about anything may be impossible now. Click To Tweet
This is normal; it’s part of the process of recovery from what you’re going through. Let yourself be where you are, and be kind to yourself. Don’t pressure yourself to be, or feel a certain way. Instead, take the time to be kind and compassionate with yourself. Do some things that comfort you, and soothe your soul. Think about ways that have helped you in the past.
Know that you aren’t alone
I’ve had plenty of Holidays that I couldn’t wait to be over because of going through intensely difficult times. A lot of people feel the same way, but don’t talk about it. Holidays usually involved family, and time with family can sometimes be a mixed and painful experience.
My kind encouragement to you is this: You matter, and what you are going through matters.Take a minute to talk to yourself with compassion. Click To Tweet
“I’m going through a very terrible time. I’m suffering because ____________. I have every reason to struggle; anyone in my situation would. I’m not going to expect myself to be up and happy, and act like things are okay. They aren’t. Instead of trying to celebrate the Holidays, I’ll make sure I have time to care for myself. I’m not wrong or bad for struggling. I’m grieving during these difficult times.”
Sometimes, the Holidays are a mixed experience
You may be very aware of good things in your life, and also lingering sorrows or disappointments. This is also quite normal. If this is true for you, take time to notice both the positives and negatives. It’s healthy to acknowledge both, because both are true. Take time to speak to yourself with compassion as well:
“I’m grateful for the Holidays this year. I have so much to be thankful for, even though there are hard parts too. I know other people have it much worse. At the same time, what I’m going through matters, and is difficult. I’m going to acknowledge that this time of year brings up pain for me about _________. At the same time, I don’t want to miss the good that is here for me to enjoy. I think I’ll pay special attention to all the things I have to be grateful for. I also want to make time to do some things that are meaningful to me.”
Sometimes, the Holidays are delightful, and we can enjoy them fully. If that is true for you this year, please soak in all the good experience before you. What a blessing this time is…so enjoy these moments to the fullest!
Be kind to yourself
No matter what the holidays are like for you, take good care of yourself. Include things that are important to you, do things as simply as possible, and draw comfort from your faith. How you treat yourself is of the utmost importance.
I’d love to hear from you!
What jumped out at you from this post? What was it like to know how normal it is to struggle being thankful sometime, and know it’s okay? How can you be kind to yourself this Holiday season?
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