Setting Boundaries and Consequences with Compassion

It’s not easy to find the sweet spot of setting boundaries and applying consequences without accidentally shaming our kids. Setting limits with compassion is so important for our children’s self-esteem, ability to set their own boundaries, and relationship with themselves. Developmental 101 Simply put, children come out as a “blob.” They are wonderful creations made […]

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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect!

Good News! Most of us live under the burden of trying to be perfect – at work, at home, in our relationships…everywhere. It is a heavy weight that can discourage and paralyze us, especially regarding our children, no matter how old they are. We have a false belief that in order to have a positive […]

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The Enemy of Self-Compassion is Shame

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  Let that sentence sink in. The enemy of self-compassion is shame. We want to be compassionate with ourselves, but our shameful self-talk blocks the kindness we want to extend to ourselves. It would be so wonderful to talk to ourselves kindly about the mistakes we’ve made, and the regrets we have. The problem is […]

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Why Our Children Need to Learn Self-Compassion

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Our children desperately need to learn how to be compassionate with themselves. They are vulnerable to being hard on themselves because they are constantly learning new things, which involves lots of failure. Teaching self-compassion is not self-pity, where we wallow in the shame of what we have done. It is not self-complacency, where we just […]

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Biblical Affirmations for Times of Struggle

  It is my pleasure today to welcome my friend, Sarah Forgrave to as my guest on the blog today. Sarah has spent many years dealing with chronic illness and all the emotional and spiritual challenges that go with it. Through it all, even in the isolation, fear and despair, Sarah has sensed God’s presence […]

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Being Compassionate with Ourselves as a Parent

Parents Need Compassion! Being a parent in this day and age is very challenging, no matter the age of your children. Parents can be so hard on themselves, but the reality is that this makes everything worse! Our children at every age, are experiencing different life challenges than we did. Not only is this hard […]

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What Does It Mean to Parent with Compassion?

We need compassion Parenting with compassion is a gentle way we can relate to ourselves, especially when we’re struggling with the demands of parenting. It makes such a difference to go through life with a kind friend on the inside rather than a critic who is telling us how we’re messing up. Imagine what it […]

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The Story Behind Give Your Kids a Break

The Behind the Scenes Story… Hello, I wanted to share with you the story of how I came to write Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children. I wasn’t intending to write another book. Four years ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and received treatment. Four days after […]

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The Power of Love

I’ve been impacted this week by both the devastation of Hurricane Harvey, as well as the outpouring of love and help by so many. I know there is no way I can ever truly understand what has happened, or what those affected are going through. I have several friends and extended family who live in […]

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Self-Compassion and Courage

Today I’m blessed to share a recent interview on their blog and podcast by Voices of Courage,  a mother-daughter team of Jan Kern and Sarah Bond, who share a vision for strengthening women of all generations. Their vision is to ignite a multi-generational movement of women leaders who hear God, speak courageously, and thereby bring […]

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