Setting Boundaries and Consequences with Compassion

It’s not easy to find the sweet spot of setting boundaries and applying consequences without accidentally shaming our kids. Setting limits with compassion is so important for our children’s self-esteem, ability to set their own boundaries, and relationship with themselves. Developmental 101 Simply put, children come out as a “blob.” They are wonderful creations made […]

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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect!

Good News! Most of us live under the burden of trying to be perfect – at work, at home, in our relationships…everywhere. It is a heavy weight that can discourage and paralyze us, especially regarding our children, no matter how old they are. We have a false belief that in order to have a positive […]

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The Benefits of Personal Growth

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Is All the Hard Work of Growth Worth It? Such a good question. It takes a lot of work to produce growth in our lives. As a Marriage and Therapist for 30 years, I was often asked, Will all this work I’m doing to grow and change really pay off? Will it make my relationships […]

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Jesus Understands Our Feelings

The most important relationship we have is with Our Lord, who loves and understands us so. Today I share a section from a book I love by Earl Henslin, called Forgiven and Free. It says it all. I hope it encourages you today! “It may be difficult for some of us to believe this truth […]

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The Power of Self-Awareness

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In order to have healthy relationships we need to be self-aware As we grow in self-awareness, we will better understand why we feel and behave the way we do. This new understanding gives us the opportunity and freedom to change those things we’d like to change about ourselves and our relationships. Self-Awareness: What do you […]

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Hints to Make Mother’s Day a Blessing

Mother’s Day is a little over a week away.  I’ve got a few hints that will help Mother’s Day go well this year. Mother’s Day is loaded emotionally…often filled with unmet expectations and disappointments. It is also a day that may bring pain for lots of reasons. Rather than ignore it, let’s look at it, and […]

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Include Yourself in Your Life!

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  Part of developing a compassionate relationship with yourself involves including yourself in your life That may sound strange. Let me explain. So often, for a variety of reasons, we often make decisions about how to spend our precious time, energy, focus, funds, and effort without factoring in our instincts, needs, and desires for our […]

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Setting Healthy Boundaries with Myself

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Everyone I know has trouble setting healthy boundaries, myself included! It’s easy to think about how hard it is to set boundaries with the challenging people in your life. What we sometimes forget, is how important it is to set healthy boundaries with ourselves. So that’s what I’m going to be sharing with you today.* […]

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How Boundary Problems Show Up in Our Relationships

Last week I shared why strong relationships need healthy boundaries. It’s normal to struggles with boundaries in our relationships with God, ourselves and others. This week we’ll talk about boundary confusion with God and others. Next week we’ll take a look at boundary confusion with ourselves. You might wonder how problems with healthy boundaries shows […]

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Strong Relationships Include Healthy Boundaries

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Wait, What? Aren’t Boundaries Meant to Keep People Out? Today I continue my series on Pursuing Healthy Relationships…with God, Ourselves and Others. This week we’ll dig into why strong relationships need healthy boundaries. What Is a Boundary? In the simplest sense, a boundary is a property line.  Boundaries indicate the beginning and end of something. […]

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