Give Yourself Time

Give Yourself Time I apologize for not posting for quite a while…I was giving myself time as I’ve been going through a lot of transitions lately. A few weeks ago I was speaking at my Retirement Party put on by Western Seminary, Sacramento. They hosted this lovely party for area therapists and my past students. […]

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Be Kind To Yourself When You Mess Up!

  If you’re like me, you might need help to be kind to yourself when you mess up. Sometimes we respond immediately with self-criticism and have no idea how to be kind and compassion with ourselves instead. I recently started a Facebook page http://facebook.com/TheSelfCompassionClub where I share lots of helpful tips about ways I and […]

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Adjusting is Hard

Change Happens…and Adjusting is Hard I Don’t Know About You, But Adjusting Sure is Hard I haven’t posted for four weeks because I’ve been adjusting to some recent health challenges. For those of you who might be new to this blog, you can read more about my journey here. About a month ago I realized […]

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When I Need Self-Compassion the Most

  There are so many times when I need self-compassion the most. These are often the most difficult times. I got to thinking about this after I received a wonderful question from one of my readers:   “Why is it that during times of grief, loss or disappointment – when I need self-compassion the most, […]

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Befriend Your Flaws!

  I don’t know about you, but I had plenty of opportunities to experience my flaws over the last few weeks. I won’t share all of them, but here’s my most public one… We usually send about 100 Christmas cards every other year. I didn’t get to them last year with all my health upheavals, […]

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Take a Risk!

  Last week I shared a post called “Seize the Moment.” I had just gotten back from a 4-day trip to Austin TX celebrating our son’s graduation with a Ph.D. in Physics from the University of Texas, Austin. This experience reminded me of how short life is, and how important it is to seize the […]

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Seize the Moment!!!

  I recently returned from a Seize the Moment experience on a 4-day trip to Austin TX. Our family and extended family congregated in Austin to celebrate our son getting his PhD in Physics from the University of Texas, Austin (Go Longhorns)! It was a wonderful celebration and we are so proud of our son […]

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Yikes, The Holidays are Coming!

  It’s November, and it is not unusual to feel, “Yikes, the Holidays are Coming!” If you’re feeling this, you’re normal. Me too! It makes so much sense to be nervous. While the Holidays are wonderful, full of promise and hope for many, they also carry extra work, pressure, expectations, and even mixed feelings. It […]

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Do What You Can

  Do What You Can It’s been a couple of weeks since I posted because I’ve had a lot going on and I told myself, “Do What You Can.” You know what that’s like, right? You’ve got plans, and stuff to do, but then unexpected things happen and what you hoped for doesn’t occur.   […]

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Isn’t Self-Compassion Feeling Sorry For Yourself?

  I’ve been asked a few times, “Isn’t Self-Compassion just feeling sorry for yourself?” Some people think that self-compassion equals looking at oneself with pity. For some, pity is a negative word. They see it as looking at oneself as a pathetic and sorry excuse for a person. That isn’t self-compassion; it is self-disdain. Self-compassion […]

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