Setting Boundaries and Consequences with Compassion

It’s not easy to find the sweet spot of setting boundaries and applying consequences without accidentally shaming our kids. Setting limits with compassion is so important for our children’s self-esteem, ability to set their own boundaries, and relationship with themselves. Developmental 101 Simply put, children come out as a “blob.” They are wonderful creations made […]

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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect!

Good News! Most of us live under the burden of trying to be perfect – at work, at home, in our relationships…everywhere. It is a heavy weight that can discourage and paralyze us, especially regarding our children, no matter how old they are. We have a false belief that in order to have a positive […]

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The Enemy of Self-Compassion is Shame

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  Let that sentence sink in. The enemy of self-compassion is shame. We want to be compassionate with ourselves, but our shameful self-talk blocks the kindness we want to extend to ourselves. It would be so wonderful to talk to ourselves kindly about the mistakes we’ve made, and the regrets we have. The problem is […]

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Why Our Children Need to Learn Self-Compassion

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Our children desperately need to learn how to be compassionate with themselves. They are vulnerable to being hard on themselves because they are constantly learning new things, which involves lots of failure. Teaching self-compassion is not self-pity, where we wallow in the shame of what we have done. It is not self-complacency, where we just […]

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Biblical Affirmations for Times of Struggle

  It is my pleasure today to welcome my friend, Sarah Forgrave to as my guest on the blog today. Sarah has spent many years dealing with chronic illness and all the emotional and spiritual challenges that go with it. Through it all, even in the isolation, fear and despair, Sarah has sensed God’s presence […]

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What Does It Mean to Parent with Compassion?

We need compassion Parenting with compassion is a gentle way we can relate to ourselves, especially when we’re struggling with the demands of parenting. It makes such a difference to go through life with a kind friend on the inside rather than a critic who is telling us how we’re messing up. Imagine what it […]

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The Story Behind Give Your Kids a Break

The Behind the Scenes Story… Hello, I wanted to share with you the story of how I came to write Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children. I wasn’t intending to write another book. Four years ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and received treatment. Four days after […]

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Treating Ourselves with Kindness When We Fail

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I just finished my manuscript for a new book I’ve been working on, Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children. It’s at my editor right now, and I hope it will be published in November. It’s been enjoyable to work on, and I’ve been working very hard.  Along the […]

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Conflict in Marriage and Self-Compassion

Today I have the honor of welcoming my fellow author and therapist, Laura Taggart, LMFT to the blog today. Laura is going to answer this question: How can being more compassionate with myself help in conflicts with my spouse? I love what Laura shares. It will help you with your marriage and all your relationships. […]

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Give Yourself a Compassionate Break!

  Are You Too Hard on Yourself?  Do You Have Trouble Showing Yourself the Same Grace and Understanding You Offer to Others? Most likely you’ve never been taught to handle being an imperfect human in a healthy way It’s been two years since my book, Give Yourself a Break: Turning Your Inner Critic into a […]

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