Parenting with Compassion — & Leaving a Legacy!
I was blessed to be interviewed by Kristi Clover on her Simply Joyful Podcast. I share with Kristi the backstory of my new book, Give Your Kids a Break, which I wrote intentionally for my children and future grandchildren. It is the outpouring of my 30+ years as a marriage and family therapist and my own parenting experiences. I wrote this book to pass on my wisdom and passion for building family unity when I’m no longer able to do so myself, because of being diagnosed with a terminal illness.
Kristi Clover, “This is a powerful episode! We’re going to talk about parenting and leaving a legacy. We’re going to laugh and cry. Please don’t miss this one. In fact, I ask that you share this episode with as many other families as you can. I also want to ask you to pray for a miracle for Kim! There is power in prayer. God is a God who can heal…even the impossible.
So, what would you do if you were told you only had a few years to live? What kind of legacy would you try to leave behind for your family? Listen in and hear Kim’s perspective. I know that you are going to be so blessed by her words of wisdom.”
Quiet Your Inner Critic and Practice Self-Compassion
What a joy to be interviewed by Heather MacFayden on the God Centered Mom Podcast.
If you’ve ever ended the day feeling like a failure and critiquing every misstep, then this episode on practicing self-compassion is for you.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, Kim Fredrickson has counseled and taught others about self-compassion for years. When she received an unexpected terminal diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis, a rare side-effect of the treatment she had received for breast cancer, she wrote a book to leave for her children on giving that same compassion to the grandchildren she may never meet.
When people feel ashamed, they blame other people because they feel like if I really look at my shame then I’m going to collapse inside. That’s why self-compassion is desperately important because kids feel shame a lot. They fail at everything at the start.
What we chat about:
- Kim’s story of receiving a devastating diagnosis after completing treatment for breast cancer
- How she’s chosen to spend the years she has left with her family
- The new book she wrote for when her children have kids called “Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children”
- How it’s a process to develop a compassionate inner voice
- Applying grace and truth to every situation in our lives
- Variety of temperaments–some that are harder on themselves than others.
- The difference between self-compassion and self-pity
- Encouraging your children to practice self-compassion and reinforcing it by showing ourselves that same
- Giving our kids the language to identify their failings and separate them from their self- worth
- Moms have a really hard job. It’s ok to acknowledge that.
- The importance of taking care of ourselves as moms
- How to talk to your kids after you’ve been hard on yourself and reframing it with self compassion
Helping Your Children and Teens Grieve
I was honored to talk with Dr. Christina Hibbert about “Helping Children and Teens Grieve.” Loss is part of childhood, whether it’s from moving, losing friends, or experiencing a parent’s divorce to experiencing death–of a pet, grandparent, or other loved one. It’s hard enough for adults to comprehend loss and know how to grieve, but unless children have someone to show them how, they can easily become overwhelmed and afraid. What can we, as parents, do to help our children identify their losses and learn to grieve? Dr. Christina Hibbert sits down with Kim Fredrickson, Marriage and Family Therapist to discuss their strategies for helping children and teens understand loss and learn to grieve. As parents learn about loss and grief, we become empowered to help our kids identify, validate, and work through their grief, too. Kim is the author of Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children, and Give Yourself a Break: Turning Your Inner Critic into a Compassionate Friend.
Teaching Your Kids to Be Kind To Themselves
It was a pleasure to talk with Better Together Podcast with Barb Roose. Barb describes our interview like this:
What do you do when you hear a child say negative things like, “I’m stupid,” “I suck,” “I can’t do anything right,” or “I’m worthless”?
Today’s episode is a critical conversation for all parents and anyone with influence in a child, teen or young adult’s life.
Here’s our question: How do we teach a child to get back up again emotionally after getting knocked down by failure, a mistake, bullying or careless words? There’s one skill that we must teach our kids because it’s not a skill that they learn naturally. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that too many adults don’t know how to use either. But, we can learn!
Today’s Better Together Podcast guest is marriage and family expert, Kim Fredrickson. She’s the author of the new book, Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children. You are invited to be part of this critical dialogue that’s needed now, more than ever!
Here’s what you’ll learn about today:
Why self-compassion is the key to bouncing back quickly from mistakes; How to use the language of self-compassion; The important difference between self-compassion and self-pity; Compassionate words to say to yourself as a parent when you make a mistake with your kids
I’m passionate about today’s conversation because I’ve read Kim’s books and I use the language of self-compassion with myself. Self-compassion helps me to get to the heart of my mistakes, own my mistakes, overcome any shame or guilt and not beat myself up.
A She’s Still There Story with Chrystal Evans Hurst
What a privilege to be interviewed by Chrystal Evans Hurst on her “She’s Still There” Podcast. Chrystal describes our interview below:
What do you do when you conquer one health crisis only to be met by another one? What do you do when you realize you will never get to know your children’s children? How do you face the reality of your temporality with grace?
Kim Fredrickson is a wife, mother, seminary professor, and for 30 plus years she maintained a thriving Marriage and Family Therapy practice. But in 2013, her life completely changed when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. After having a lumpectomy, chemotherapy, and radiation, Kim beat cancer and thought her life was getting back to normal. Just four short days later, she was diagnosed with a rare side-effect from her cancer treatment and was given a life expectancy of 3 to 5 years.
By God’s grace and guidance, Kim has become determined to use these final years of her life for good, and she hopes to bless others with the words she would have loved to share personally with her grandchildren – grandchildren she will not meet on this side of eternity.
In this episode Kim shares the ups and downs of her health journey. She also shares how to practically forgive, love, and show compassion for yourself. Then, at the end of our conversation, Kim shares what she wants her grandchildren to know about her.
Have some tissue nearby because, if you are like me, this conversation will touch a tender place in her heart as you consider how short our time on this earth can actually be.
Highlights from Today’s Episode:
- Embracing the Reality of a Terminal Illness
- Having Compassion for Yourself & Others
- Leaving a Legacy and Living With the End in Mind
Being a Friend to Yourself as You Go Through Difficult Times
Click below to hear my interview with Jennifer Christian, LPC. Jennifer and I talk about being a compassionate friend to yourself as you go through difficult times. I speak from experience as a battle pulmonary fibrosis, a terminal lung disease. I share why it’s so hard to be kind to ourselves as we go through hard times, compassionate words to say to yourself, and encouragement for our loved ones and caregivers. Tune it for great information, humor, and practical help to become a good friend to yourself.
Self-Compassion on the Beautiful Brave Podcast
I’m blessed to join Sarah Bond and Jan Kern as explore what self-compassion really means, how it can alter our lives, and why it matters so much for leaders and parents in particular. I share the real-life practice of self-compassion during challenging times. I talk about real, personal, and very practical ways of practicing self-compassion from the perspective of my 30-year counseling practice as well as being diagnosed with a terminal illness. Sarah states, “Her story provides amazing perspective on what really matters in life and how we can become one of our own greatest friends. Listen and be inspired, friends!” Click below to listen.