Are My Needs Okay?

Do you ever wonder if it’s okay to have needs? What is selfish and what is OK? I was interviewed by Jodie Stevens of 103.9 THE FISH about this important question. The answer YES…it is absolutely OK to have needs, and in fact is actually healthy because God placed those needs inside of us…they are […]

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Enjoying Life During Hardships

Last week my husband and I celebrated our 40th anniversary! I am so grateful to celebrate this amazing day with this wonderful man! Four years ago, I was told I had a few months to a year to live and was offered no treatment options. Being given such a horrible time frame to live was […]

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Breast Cancer Self-Care: Loving Your Hurting Self

  Society likes to talk a lot about self-care: which often translates to a box of chocolates, a bubble bath, and perhaps a glass of wine. I had the privilege of being a guest writer on ImTakingCharge.com last week. I take the idea of breast cancer self-care (and all self-care) to a higher level–beginning with […]

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Keeping Yourself Emotionally Grounded

  Our feelings, thoughts and beliefs are wonderful gifts from God that help us understand ourselves and how we’re doing on the inside. Our emotions can also be confusing, scary and unpredictable. We need practical tools to help us process and learn from our emotions. They help us learn about our emotions and how to […]

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Soothing Yourself When Distressed

We Need Ways to Soothe Ourselves There are so many difficult things in life that happen that cannot be changed. We have a lot of losses to grieve. What helps during these difficult times is taking the time to soothe, calm, and comfort ourselves in ways that help, not harm. We fall into these practices […]

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Is Self-Compassion Selfish?

I’ve written two books about self-compassion, and have done a lot of interviews, videos and podcasts on the topic. I love getting input about this important topic. One question I’ve been asked a few times is, “Is Self-Compassion Selfish?” When we don’t care for ourselves At first glance, it could look this way. The reality […]

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Wisdom to Your Younger Self

I was recently asked to share what I would say to my younger self, knowing what I know now about living life. I’m grateful to Jeanette Schneider at loreandlittlethings.com to allow me to share with her readers. I thought it might be helpful for all of us to think about. All of us have gone […]

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Creating a Safe Place on the Inside

  I’ve wanted to write about this topic for a long time. Our society has been changing over the last five years in ways that are disturbing to me. One of these ways is the emphasis on creating “safe places” for students on college campuses to shield themselves from uncomfortable or dissenting viewpoints. This is […]

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Embrace Your Imperfections

Last night I was sitting in the dark in my living room, with the lights of my Christmas tree casting a warm glow over the room. It’s one of my favorite things to do this time of year. As I gazed at the tree, I noticed both its beauty, and its imperfections. My tree has […]

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Mixed Feelings Around the Holidays

Happy Holidays??? Hello! The Holidays are just around the corner, and it’s normal to have mixed feelings about this time of year. For some of us, this time of year is a blessing, full of anticipation and positive feelings. For others, it is a painful time. This is especially true if you’ve been through a […]

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