Soothing Yourself When Distressed

We Need Ways to Soothe Ourselves There are so many difficult things in life that happen that cannot be changed. We have a lot of losses to grieve. What helps during these difficult times is taking the time to soothe, calm, and comfort ourselves in ways that help, not harm. We fall into these practices […]

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Is Self-Compassion Selfish?

I’ve written two books about self-compassion, and have done a lot of interviews, videos and podcasts on the topic. I love getting input about this important topic. One question I’ve been asked a few times is, “Is Self-Compassion Selfish?” When we don’t care for ourselves At first glance, it could look this way. The reality […]

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Wisdom to Your Younger Self

I was recently asked to share what I would say to my younger self, knowing what I know now about living life. I’m grateful to Jeanette Schneider at loreandlittlethings.com to allow me to share with her readers. I thought it might be helpful for all of us to think about. All of us have gone […]

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Creating a Safe Place on the Inside

  I’ve wanted to write about this topic for a long time. Our society has been changing over the last five years in ways that are disturbing to me. One of these ways is the emphasis on creating “safe places” for students on college campuses to shield themselves from uncomfortable or dissenting viewpoints. This is […]

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Being Compassionate as You Parent, Helps Your Marriage

  How does being compassionate with yourself as a parent help your marriage? Good question. First, remember that everything is connected. How you care for yourself as you parent affects your relationship with yourself, your child, and yes…your spouse. We can be pretty hard on ourselves as parents We don’t mean to, we simply don’t […]

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Extending Compassion over the Holidays

  Christmas is just around the corner, and if you’re like me, you’re probably exhausted. This year, I encourage you treat yourself with care and compassion, and extend that to your children and grandchildren too. Our hopes for the holidays, can be a mixed blessing. They help us plan what’s important to us, but can […]

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Embrace Your Imperfections

Last night I was sitting in the dark in my living room, with the lights of my Christmas tree casting a warm glow over the room. It’s one of my favorite things to do this time of year. As I gazed at the tree, I noticed both its beauty, and its imperfections. My tree has […]

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Mixed Feelings Around the Holidays

Happy Holidays??? Hello! The Holidays are just around the corner, and it’s normal to have mixed feelings about this time of year. For some of us, this time of year is a blessing, full of anticipation and positive feelings. For others, it is a painful time. This is especially true if you’ve been through a […]

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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect!

Good News! Most of us live under the burden of trying to be perfect – at work, at home, in our relationships…everywhere. It is a heavy weight that can discourage and paralyze us, especially regarding our children, no matter how old they are. We have a false belief that in order to have a positive […]

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Learn to Give Without Resentment

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Do you struggle with resentment? Do you sometimes feel like you are the one doing all the giving and sacrificing, while others around you aren’t doing their fair share? If the answer is “yes”, then you are not alone. I learned this concept many years ago when I developed a tool to help myself with […]

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