Holding Onto Things Loosely

I am learning to hold onto things loosely. To me, holding things loosely as a patient with pulmonary fibrosis means being active in the pursuit of my health, taking care of things I need to, and letting go of things that are out of my control. I’m shifting my focus to holding tightly to the […]

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Are My Needs Okay?

Do you ever wonder if it’s okay to have needs? What is selfish and what is OK? I was interviewed by Jodie Stevens of 103.9 THE FISH about this important question. The answer YES…it is absolutely OK to have needs, and in fact is actually healthy because God placed those needs inside of us…they are […]

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Tips for Processing Emotions

Processing emotions is hard for MOST people. Very few of us have been taught how to work through our emotions in healthy ways, including grief. Most of us ignore them, push them down or blow up after letting them build up inside. We respond this way because we haven’t learned healthy ways to process our […]

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Breast Cancer Self-Care: Loving Your Hurting Self

  Society likes to talk a lot about self-care: which often translates to a box of chocolates, a bubble bath, and perhaps a glass of wine. I had the privilege of being a guest writer on ImTakingCharge.com last week. I take the idea of breast cancer self-care (and all self-care) to a higher level–beginning with […]

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Keeping Yourself Emotionally Grounded

  Our feelings, thoughts and beliefs are wonderful gifts from God that help us understand ourselves and how we’re doing on the inside. Our emotions can also be confusing, scary and unpredictable. We need practical tools to help us process and learn from our emotions. They help us learn about our emotions and how to […]

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Soothing Yourself When Distressed

We Need Ways to Soothe Ourselves There are so many difficult things in life that happen that cannot be changed. We have a lot of losses to grieve. What helps during these difficult times is taking the time to soothe, calm, and comfort ourselves in ways that help, not harm. We fall into these practices […]

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Is Self-Compassion Selfish?

I’ve written two books about self-compassion, and have done a lot of interviews, videos and podcasts on the topic. I love getting input about this important topic. One question I’ve been asked a few times is, “Is Self-Compassion Selfish?” When we don’t care for ourselves At first glance, it could look this way. The reality […]

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Wisdom to Your Younger Self

I was recently asked to share what I would say to my younger self, knowing what I know now about living life. I’m grateful to Jeanette Schneider at loreandlittlethings.com to allow me to share with her readers. I thought it might be helpful for all of us to think about. All of us have gone […]

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Creating a Safe Place on the Inside

  I’ve wanted to write about this topic for a long time. Our society has been changing over the last five years in ways that are disturbing to me. One of these ways is the emphasis on creating “safe places” for students on college campuses to shield themselves from uncomfortable or dissenting viewpoints. This is […]

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Being Compassionate as You Parent, Helps Your Marriage

  How does being compassionate with yourself as a parent help your marriage? Good question. First, remember that everything is connected. How you care for yourself as you parent affects your relationship with yourself, your child, and yes…your spouse. We can be pretty hard on ourselves as parents We don’t mean to, we simply don’t […]

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