Extending Compassion over the Holidays

  Christmas is just around the corner, and if you’re like me, you’re probably exhausted. This year, I encourage you treat yourself with care and compassion, and extend that to your children and grandchildren too. Our hopes for the holidays, can be a mixed blessing. They help us plan what’s important to us, but can […]

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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect!

Good News! Most of us live under the burden of trying to be perfect – at work, at home, in our relationships…everywhere. It is a heavy weight that can discourage and paralyze us, especially regarding our children, no matter how old they are. We have a false belief that in order to have a positive […]

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The Benefits of Personal Growth

Personal Growth

Is All the Hard Work of Growth Worth It? Such a good question. It takes a lot of work to produce growth in our lives. As a Marriage and Therapist for 30 years, I was often asked, Will all this work I’m doing to grow and change really pay off? Will it make my relationships […]

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Hints to Make Mother’s Day a Blessing

Mother’s Day is a little over a week away.  I’ve got a few hints that will help Mother’s Day go well this year. Mother’s Day is loaded emotionally…often filled with unmet expectations and disappointments. It is also a day that may bring pain for lots of reasons. Rather than ignore it, let’s look at it, and […]

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Include Yourself in Your Life!

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  Part of developing a compassionate relationship with yourself involves including yourself in your life That may sound strange. Let me explain. So often, for a variety of reasons, we often make decisions about how to spend our precious time, energy, focus, funds, and effort without factoring in our instincts, needs, and desires for our […]

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Setting Healthy Boundaries with Myself


Everyone I know has trouble setting healthy boundaries, myself included! It’s easy to think about how hard it is to set boundaries with the challenging people in your life. What we sometimes forget, is how important it is to set healthy boundaries with ourselves. So that’s what I’m going to be sharing with you today.* […]

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Step Out and Seek Help for What Matters to You


I just took a bold step to ask for help I have a big goal that really matters to me. Our son is getting married in a little less than two months. We love his fiancé’ and are thrilled about their wedding. We’ve been planning a way to attend for well over a year. We […]

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Practical Tools to Build Healthy Relationships with God, Yourself and Others

Are You Ready to Learn Practical Tools to Build Healthier Relationships? I’ll bet the answer to that question is, “Yes!” Over the last month we covered Principle 1 in this series: To have healthy relationships you need to develop a strong sense of yourself; a sense of who you are as a person – who […]

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Healthy Relationships – Healthy Self vs. Distorted Self?

Healthy Sense of Self vs. Distorted Sense of Self?     Last week I shared how there are 7 types of mirrors that give us a reflection of who we are. They affect the way our sense of self develops. Today we’ll be digging in deeper to distinguish between a healthy sense of self vs. […]

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Healthy Relationships #2 – Who Told You Who You Are?

This is part 2 of Pursuing Healthy Relationships…with God, Ourselves and Others. Last week I shared that in order to have healthy relationships, you need to have a compassionate relationship with yourself. This begins by having a strong sense of yourself.  As you try to develop a solid sense of who you are as a […]

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